In a perfect world, we’d all thrive in the environments we are brought into life. But that isn’t always the reality. Some of us must heal the scars on our hands nightly after carving a path that was never set for us.
That is one of the aspects of immigration, at least.
Most of the time, the act of immigrating beats you up worse than a parent who’s yet to deal with their generational trauma. Nostalgia becomes your best friend as adapting becomes your only choice.
It is why it’s no surprise that the immigrant experience challenges your core, including your identity and femininity.
Here are some things this experience may make you (or may have already made you) encounter:
Get ready to face yourself – raw and uncut
Being uprooted and yanked away from familiarity rushes you into facing your demons quicker than you had originally planned. Suddenly, your demons are brushing up against you, and you have to figure out what to do with them – for the sake of your future. And you do – just don’t let your insecurities get the best of you.
Failure isn’t an option
Once you embark on the immigration journey, whether it’s voluntary or not, you know that you must succeed as much as you can, no matter what. It’ll be painful, especially if you are doing it alone, with no one you can count on, but it is feasible. Remember, immigrant successes look different from person to person. The key is to avoid comparing yourself to others at all costs.
Femininity as a tool
My woman intuition helped guide me at times when I felt the most lost. For the most part, we perceive things with a different lens. We are naturally equipped with a compass that can often guide us into spaces that allow us to grow. But you must face your inner demons before being able to utilize the tool of our feminine power.
Being an immigrant is strength, love, patience, tears, and more – and everyone’s experience is just as valid.