The world seems to be harsher than ever. It might be the restrictions the pandemic has caused, the political climate, or it might be generational. Whatever is causing it, there are plenty of people walking around with their dark moods hovering over them.
The dense environment we live in might make people more irritable than before or straight-out mean. The reality is that these people, just like you, are probably just craving some kindness.
Sadly, kindness is scarce nowadays, but you can change that.
Use this as an opportunity to practice the Golden Rule and make it a point to make someone’s day as much as you can.
People around you are bound to make some mistakes that may inconvenience you. However, be understanding. Let them explain themselves and refrain from reacting negatively. You’d like for people to give you a chance when you mess up, so take it easy. Remember, to err is human
Compliment and make them smile!
Speaking gently to others seldom occurs at this time of age. Many are so caught up in their own lives that they forget to uplift others’ spirits. So, break this habit. Tell people you like their energy that day or love their outfit. A sweet comment doesn’t have to be elaborate. Keep it simple. Be sure not to go overboard on the compliments, though. It may make some people feel uncomfortable. Sprinkle it as you would salt — lightly.
Offer help, sincerely
It’s often said that this generation is working at higher rates than previous generations. The hours are longer than in past years, the tasks are stacking up by the hour, yet the same 24 hours remain. If you want to see the face of a loved one or a co-worker light up, offer to help them with their work. It doesn’t have to be a gigantic task. Maybe you can help them write emails or look over some folders. It can even be a house chore, like cooking. Perhaps you can order them food, so they don’t worry about it that day. This act of kindness will go a long way, and you’ll never regret it.
Listen, but really, listen attentively
The best way to cultivate love is through listening (without thinking what you’ll answer next). Whether it’s cultivating the love for a friendship, family member, or even a stranger, you need to learn how to listen. The best way to ensure that you are actually listening to someone is by staying quiet while they speak (don’t interrupt them, especially if they are going through a crisis!) Sometimes all people need in their day is someone who will listen — be that someone.
Empathy always wins!
Empathy is the act of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. It’s also the purest way to show someone you care about them. In order to start implementing empathy into your everyday life, you’ll need to validate people’s feelings. Don’t ever try to brush off someone else’s emotions — you never know the adverse effects this can have on someone’s mental health. However, just because you practice empathy with someone doesn’t mean you actually understand their situation to the core. Pretending to understand their difficulties comes off as insensitive. All you need to do is to let them know you hear their concerns and are there for them if they need extra support.
Overall, try to lead your life with compassion. Doing so can make someone’s day or more than that. Understandably, it may difficult to be gentle to everyone you encounter, but it all starts with trying.
Wouldn’t you want people to be this mindful with you?