We often do not realize that even as small children, our subconscious mind can pick up on emotions and behaviors, even if we are not at the age to fully remember things. This is our inner child.
Although our cognition is underdeveloped, our mind can store many experiences. Since we could not process what was happening in front of us, it became a sort of repressed memory, always lingering within us and shaping us into the person we are today.
It wasn’t until I was much older that I realized much of my behaviors as an adult stem from my inner child. There are moments when I feel a sudden surge of nostalgia whenever I am around my children. This is because I have repressed memories from my childhood that still affect me. At this point, you may think your wounded inner child will be stuck in this state forever. However, I am here to tell you that it is possible to heal your inner child while you mother your children.
Participate in Activities Both You and Your Child Enjoy
Although playing with your children may seem obvious, you can heal your inner child by engaging in activities you would enjoy as a child. For example, you may have never had the chance to skate because your parents prohibited you due to safety concerns.
You want to provide your child with all the experiences you were unable to enjoy, so set up a training session with them. Share this moment with them. Skate together, fall together, laugh together. Allow the child within you to come out and enjoy quality time together.
Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present at any given moment. It does not allow for your mind to wander off to other things. Practicing mindfulness will enable you to meditate, and it will help you become comfortable with accepting your inner child and understanding why you feel the way you feel. As a result, you will have a heightened sense of awareness regarding your children’s needs, and you will be able to nurture your children’s inner child.
Talk to a Therapist
Sometimes, in our exploration of our inner child, we realize that there are many negative memories that we have never been able to fully process. You may feel as if you are unable to cope with this. And that is perfectly okay. Consider going to therapy and talking through all these feelings so a professional can provide you with the tools to heal your inner child. This makes you a strong mother because you are able to seek help for yourself, so you provide all the care and love in the world to your children.
In the long run, nurturing our inner child will pave the way for a stronger relationship with our children.