Back-to-school season is stressful on its own, but there is added stress when you’re dealing with it on your own as a single mom. Now, hear me out, a single mother is as powerful and capable as any mother, pero it can be a bit overwhelming from time to time — and that’s totally fine!
Now, as we mentioned, back-to-school can be un dolor de cabeza and coping with it as a single mom can be a task in itself. But it doesn’t mean that it’s impossible; it just means some extra guidance is needed, which is why we are here.
So, how shall we cope with this magical/mortifying season on our own? Fácil! Read below for our tips.
Sometimes the stress we single mothers feel is caused by a lack of organizations. Understandably, our days often don’t lend themselves to organization, but if we put some effort into planning for the back-to-school season, then we can glide through it without breaking a sweat (or too much of a sweat) until the next year. In order to plan ahead, try creating a list of tasks that need to be completed before your children start school.
Dedicate a few days of the weeks prior to school to their shopping needs and anything school-related that may come up. The night before school, their school lunches should be packed (if they’re old enough, they can help you with this task), their outfits have been chosen, and their bookbags should be equipped for success (pencil, pen, notebooks, folders, binders, etc.) Just make sure you don’t leave anything for the last minute!
For some reason, many single mothers believe that asking for help is almost sinful. But that’d be only punishing yourself. It’s okay if you ask a friend or a close family member for help. Maybe ask them to accompany you to the store for back-to-school shopping; that way, there are extra sets of eyes on the kids. Or, if they’re up for it, ask them to babysit and prize them with dinner once you get home from your errands. Please keep in mind that there are people willing to build genuine friendships out there — don’t push everyone out. After all, you can help one another in the long run.
Relax your mind
Single motherhood can feel lonely and overpowering. However, letting these feelings take over you will make it harder for you to stay focused. Remember, your children need you to stay on track as their success depends on it. So, if you need to indulge in a home spa or take a day for yourself (after tending to the little ones), then go for it! Exhaustion will lag your back-to-school plans, and no one wants that.
Take it easy
Talking about relaxation, you need to learn to take it easy. No one expects you to be a perfect mother. Things will happen along the way that may disrupt whatever you had planned, and you have to learn to be okay with that. Besides, your children are actively learning how to deal with stressful situations by observing you — so, be a good example. Take a deep breath and enjoy these moments because they’ll be gone before you know it.