The older I get, the more I can see things from a different perspective. I don’t know if this happens to anyone else out there, but my level of self-awareness has been heightened beyond anywhere I could’ve ever imagined. I guess this is what happens when you’re well into your thirties, with three toddlers to care for, and all while doing it as a single mother.
But something that I ponder on more than ever is the friendships I’ve had throughout my life. As much as I hate to admit it, some Amigas don’t make it into every stage of our lives – and that’s okay.
However, every friend who comes into your life has an important role. This Valentine’s Day, let’s celebrate the best types of friends around you.
Though many types of friends will appear in your life, the forever amiga, or the BFF, is one of the most important friendships in a woman’s life. She has probably seen you grow up and mature, which is beautiful in itself. This friend is the one who will remember your most painful heartbreaks, will know what’s bothering you from the tone of your voice, and will make sure to be there when it’s truly necessary. However, just because they are accessible doesn’t mean they will be the friend you will contact 24/7. Not at all. This friend will understand that life happens and that people get busy. But the beauty of this friend is that it’s all about quality versus quantity. If you have one of these friends, consider yourself lucky.
Now, the mejores Amigas are the ones you can contact at any time, whether to complain, vent, laugh, and more. They will be there at the slightest inconvenience, pick up your kids from school (if they are available), and make it a point to include your family in outings. This friend can almost feel like a sister, and blessed are those who experience this type of friendship. This amiga can easily become a forever amiga too. In fact, most forever amigas begin as a mejor amiga.
Amigas para Rumbear
The amiga para rumbear – or party – is just as important as the friends you confide in. They might not be your go-to when you need advice, but having someone to hype you up from time to time is also important. This friend won’t be someone in your everyday life, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Instead, she will be the one to cheer you up and remove you from your tiring routine when she feels it’s time. Tread lightly with this friendship, though. Remember, you have children to tend to and can’t be de fiesta en fiesta anymore – or at least you shouldn’t. Hay que dar ejemplo, comadres.
Your childhood friend is similar to your forever friend, but they aren’t really as accessible. This is the friend that you will perhaps always cherish, but the connection isn’t as deep anymore. That doesn’t mean you won’t like each other’s pictures and send birthday party invites to them. Besides, even if the friendship isn’t as strong as it used to be, they still carry remnants of the person you used to be around them, which can be a lesson to you. Take care of these friends too. Don’t neglect them because they were there for you at some point.
The lesson friend is the one that helps you a lot about yourself. They will test your limits as a person, and you will take those teachings with you throughout your life. Losing this friend (it will happen) will be hard, but you’ll understand that it’s for the best. Unfortunately, not every friendship can be great. Once this friendship is over, you will be able to teach your own children how to look for friendship red flags.