15 Readers Share Their Ideas To Forgive And Let Go Of Anger

Aug 5, 2016

Gandhi once said, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Betrayal, aggression, and just plain rudeness: People can hurt us in a million ways, and forgiveness isn’t always easy. Whether you’ve been cheated on by a spouse, betrayed by a close friend, or badmouthed by a co-worker, most of us are faced with a variety of situations in which we feel wronged. We’ve all heard “You need to forgive and forget.” – but is this truly how we feel? When someone really hurts you, do you still want to forgive that person? Forgiveness, like so many things in life, is easier said than done. There isn’t a single person on Earth who hasn’t suffered resentment after being wronged. It is natural to feel bad, to feel like holding on to the anger and hurt.

Ultimately, forgiveness is especially challenging because it’s hard to let go of what’s happened. It can be really difficult to accept some things in life, and forgiving someone who has committed unacceptable behavior can be difficult when we are having trouble letting go of anger about the events and accepting what happened to us. Forgiveness isn’t about playing the martyr or victim. It’s not about being a doormat. In fact, it has absolutely nothing to do with the other person at all. Forgiveness is about one thing and one thing only: it’s about how you feel.

Have you ever heard of the old saying – “Being angry at someone is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die?” Well, a new study may just prove the link between mind and body, suggesting that holding a grudge may not weigh only on your mind but also upon your physical person. The research states that the act of forgiveness can not only metaphorically lift a burden off your shoulders, but it can do so physically, as well.

So, to sum it up, forgiveness is good for your body, your relationships, and your place in the world. That’s reason enough to convince virtually anyone to do the work of letting go of anger and working on forgiveness. Read on for some great tips from readers on how to forgive and why it’s worth it.

  • Do not keep thinking of the past

    When you let go of it, you get over the anger/bitterness that you felt and it clears the path of forgiveness! The best thing is time! –Ashna Singh

  • Stop thinking and just do it

    Open your heart and forgive. –Lindsey Windrow

  • Let Go

    Understand this, whether you like it or not, over time, you will stop feeling the pain, so why hold on to something that’s going to away anyway? –Nirav KAKU

  • Have Empathy

    Remember, we are all doing the best we can at the time. –Diane Paul

  • Understanding

    I just acknowledge that we are humans, so we are allowed to make mistakes. –Haydee Lizbeth Lopez Cruz

  • Shift the focus

    Feel the pain and think of the thousands of others in the world who are also feeling the same pain, then send a loving-kindness message to everyone to be relieved of this suffering. -Nick Ong

  • Get Some Zen

    Meditate, meditate and meditate some more until it’s gone! –Margot Knight-Guijt

  • Write It Out

    Write a brutally honest, emotionally raw letter telling them how much they have hurt and angered you, then tear it up and burn it. As you watch the smoke rise, think about the fact that you are not that hurt and that anger. It is fleeting, just like everything else. As the smoke carrying your hurt and disappointment disappears into the air, you can let it go. –Renate Wuersig

  • Don’t force it

    If I don’t feel forgiving, I can at least not act on my anger. Eventually, forgiveness will come if you welcome it. –Julie Trottier

  • Express It

    I allow myself to feel again whatever I didn’t express “in the moment” when I was with them. Forgiveness always seems to follow those (usually) difficult emotions. –Cynthia Ruprecht Hunt

  • We're All One

    Remind yourself that they are not separate from you; they only appear that way. Then you will realize you are one, and it is yourself you are forgiving. –Justin Hayden

  • Don't Dwell

    Just look to the future instead of focusing on what’s past…think of creating new good memories to wipe away old bad ones. –Elizabeth Lindsay

  • Learn From It

    When it happens I often ask myself “What strengths must I develop further from this?” Often the feeling of resentment just goes away, slowly but surely, because I wasn’t focusing on the person that wronged me, but the lesson that the event was trying to tell me. –Natassia Callista Alicia

  • We all make mistakes

    Remind yourself of how much forgiveness would mean to you if it was your turn for a mistake! – Carol Mcbride-Safford

  • Love

    You remember why you love them. Love is about forgiveness.- Holly Chapman

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